Our modern, fast-paced, ridiculously busy and stressful lives are rarely easy on us. Tough times are often, so is the need to hear the ‘it’s going to be okay’ from a loved one. Unfortunately, your closest might not always know everything that’s going on with you.
Self-help books, the right kinds, are the perfect way to get the positive, real encouragement without needing to explain yourself to someone. You know when the author note of a self-help book is a few pages long, the woman knows what she’s talking about—because she’s gone through it all.
When You’re Not OK by Jill Stark is the one book you need by your bedside, on your work desk, in your car and everywhere else you could find yourself in a state of panic and worry.
On first impressions, it’s an easy read. Snippety bits all throughout and well-dissected sections. The more you get into it, the more you start to relate to what you find and won’t want to put it down till you’re all through. It starts off with the most important aspect of going through a tough time - acceptance. Cry it out, don’t push what you’re feeling away, accept your emotional baggage; the works. Once you’ve completed that stage, the author moves on to make sure you’ve still got your basics covered. Shower, eat, change your clothes; just make sure you’re still doing everyday things.
There’s nothing more important than loving your body, and more importantly, being good to it. Attempt to not go down a rabbit hole filled with multiple wine glasses, don’t over-caffeinate, dance out your stress and avoid hangxiety (the anxiety you feel when you’re hungover, yes, she went there). Then, she asks you to slow down - don’t worry, she teaches you how to - and sheds light on the fact that it indeed does take a village to feel better.
The author emphasises on switching off and the best ways to do so, clearing your head (making lists, journaling, etc), and celebrating your small wins, because you really should. You need to do you more than ever, and Stark acknowledges that by encouraging booking tables for one and really embracing JOMO. She closes off with Section 10: Be Kind To Yourself. Be compassionate because it really does help you heal and put your happy playlist on.
This guide to looking after yourself is practical, easy to understand and nails even the smallest of everyday issues on the head. You can’t help but relate and get better.